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Dealing with depression
The
unfulfilled pilgrim experiences depression. Fulfilment happens if and when
she attains her goal. At that instant, the goal is fully energised and
surplus energy is released. The released energy can be used either to
generate the feeling of happiness (or bliss or joy) or as investment in a new
pilgrimage. The
pilgrim experiences depression if she can’t reach her goal. That may happen
for four reasons. She
has lost sight of the goal and is lost (chronic depression happens in those
who have no goal). The
path to her goal is blocked and she is stuck. She
has run out of means to goal achievement and is stuck. She
has run out of energy and is stuck. The
experienced pilgrim, knowing that she alone (i.e. together with her genie)
must solve her problem, resolves the impasse by one or more of the following
methods. The
(smart) pilgrim either retraces her steps until her goal comes back into
view. Or she recalls or reactivates it. Basically, she simply refocuses fully
on her goal. The very fact of seeing her goal again, indeed by focussing
intently on it, will produce a nano (i.e. a major ‘as if’ experience functioning
as a small ‘as is’) goal achievement experience and which reorients her and
powers her up, thereby reducing or eliminating her depression. Then she
resumes her trip. The
(savvy) pilgrim diverts from her pilgrimage. She makes resolving the blockage
a primary goal, which, when resolved, will clear the path to her goal and
also power up. She
goes on an outer pilgrimage to forage for means (i.e. for self-building
materials and skills), which when acquired (hence problem solved) will
generate a fulfilment experience and boost her power supply (thereby
eliminating her depression). In short, she becomes physically or
intellectually active. She
forages for food (i.e. as in retail therapy, as in eating chocolate or
smoking a cigarette – that latter mode still the most important personal
regeneration means when in battle - and the pilgrim is in battle), which,
when she eats and assimilates it, will fulfil her (i.e. with energy; should
she not apply that energy, she will merely become obese, and which will push
her further into depression). The
(cunning) pilgrim creates an expedient (to wit, self-serving, i.e. to a
secondary fulfilment) diversion. She (temporarily) sets up a new goal (real
or artificial, internal or external), which when achieved, fulfils her. She
then uses the energy milked from that fulfilment to power up her trip to her
primary goal. The
pilgrim does not ruminate on her situation. Rumination uses up a lot of
energy, that loss resulting in even greater depression. The
clever pilgrim will have observed the frequent periods of elation and of
depression, will have accepted these as a normal by-product of her
pilgrimage, like the changing weather, and will simply knuckle down and get
on with the job. In short,
the depressed pilgrim eliminates her depression either by refocusing on her
goal and restarting her (Outer and Inner) pilgrimage towards it, or by
diverting to a secondary goal, internal or external, and by reaching it (and
fulfilment) is relieved (or released) from her depression. If she stays put,
that is to say, if she does not start moving towards her primary or any other
goal, she will fade (i.e. get even more depressed and disoriented,
consequently experiencing herself as though she were lost in an arid, hot and
windy desert, like Moses) and
die (or get rescued by a Saviour).
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